The existence of this handbook is only provided upon birth or imminent birth of a Jewish child to a Jewish mother. This handbook reveals the intricacies involved in making a person who had the potential of becoming a normal well-adjusted member of society into a neurotic, guilt-obsessed, passive-aggressive Mama's Boy/Girl.
This handbook contains key phrases and silent treatment techniques that are practically guaranteed to be effective, including but not limited to:
- I gave up everything to raise you. And THIS is the thanks I get.
- No really, you do whatever you think is right. I mean, who am I to have an opinion? I'm just your mother.
- Eat. There are people starving all over the world, and you're too good to eat my food.
- When I was your age, I used to walk five miles to school. Uphill. Both ways. In the snow. All year round. And all you do is want want want.
- No, it's fine. You go out and enjoy your life. I'll just sit here. By myself. In the dark. *deep sigh*
- Who am I to want to want to see my son/daughter/grandchildren more than once a month?
- Oh, you finally called. It's nice to know you remember you have a mother.
Comparisons with other children to make sure your child feels inadequate are key. For example:
- Did you hear about the Goldstein boy? He got into Harvard. Oy, his mother must be so proud. What I am going to tell the ladies at Temple about you?
- Did you hear about Shari Klein? She got engaged to a DAWCTA. At least HER mother can rest easy. Isn't Shari two years younger than you?
Enlisting the help of women who have the handbook is also fair game. These women are highly trained and need only minimal coaching and/or information to effectuate the desired result:
- It's your grandmother. Why haven't you called your poor mother? Do you know the agony she's going through worrying about you?
- It's your aunt Ester. Have you gone to see your mother lately? Really? You've been busy? Apparently not too busy to go out with your friends, but too busy to see your own mother. I see.
And of course, if all else fails, the secret weapon: Crying. But use this with caution. Over-use of the Crying Weapon will only cause suspicion and backfire.